15 Things

Found this on FB. Thought its such an awesome thing to apply to life to make it much easier and livable . . . with all the complicated situations going on nowadays. Doesn't hurt to try. 

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT

 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. GIVE UP ON BLAME

 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK

 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING

 Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE

 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. GIVE UP LABELS

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. GIVE UP THE PAST

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Involved

Know how parents want to be as involved in your life as possible? In other words, jaga tepi kain. Of course, who am I to complain, they are parents being parents anyway. You roll your eyes at their antics, nudge them under the table when they say something embarassing and say "Daaaaaa-aaaaaaaaad" when they crack a typical Dad joke. All in all I still love my parents dearly. . .

Despite the fact that Daddy now has full control of my FB. Yep. I signed in into my FB with his phone when I was in Miri and forgotten to sign out. He now browses my FB all the time, looking at updates and *horror* pictures! Not funny! So not funny - especially when he used my FB to upload his own pictures and comment on other people pictures. With. My. FB!
Damnit.

I guess its time for me to mutual a Miri flight just so that I can go home and reset his phone. Hah!

And of course to tapau back some food for the month of June. Heh

Not Getting Any Easier

Things dont seem to get any easier as the days go by. Too many things cloud my mind - thank God work is routine cos I'm just going through the motions. Any free time I get on my own, I'm off in my own world thinking of everything that has come at me all at once.

Yes, I'm admitting it here - I am inexplicably stressed out to the max.

Even though I have made the decision, a part of me is still unsure. It was either Option A or Option B. No Option C. It was decided Option B. But I do still think of how life would be if Option A. Of course it would throw life into a whole different spin altogether but I cant help but feel like I want to go through it. I mean other people have gone through similar circumstances and they survived, right?

But Option B. In a way, many would view it as an easy way out. But is it, really?

I am conflicted. So conflicted than I have ever been before. Many times I've been put in situations where I know what my mind and heart wants, and somehow, right now, what my head wants and what my heart wants is two entirely different things.

Title-less

Life has just gotten "interesting".

I've come to that "fork" in life where I have to make a decision. A major one, that will effect life no matter which decision I make. I am seriously clueless.

Even writing this post took me half a day. I had blogger open for a few hours now but couldn't get myself to type anything out.

Annual Leave

8 days in total.

How did I spend it?

KUL-Miri 2 nights/3d
Miri - Mulu 2 nights/3d
Mulu - Miri 1 night/2d
Miri - KUL 1 night/2d

It's back to work tomorrow.

Sigh.

And did I mention that I also gained about 5 kgs?

Penang

I've always liked Penang nightstops - mostly because I am in love with its famous nasik kandar. My first Penang nightstop, the crew introduced me to telur sotong which I am now very much addicted to (thanks for making me fat again). However, just spent my day off flying to Penang on a whim as a birthday treat for him. 

We didn't do any sightseeing - just hanging out with his set of crew and eating and getting stranded due to the thunderstorm and spending half a day at Smile Tomyam. Just one of those carefree easygoin lepak sessions that you can only find among MH crews. It's a nice escape from the bustling city but its back to reality today when I have to be back in KL.

Flying to Labuan tomorrow and I am excited! The notion of meeting Lynn and Aunty Mary - ohhhh what bliss! And there's also the new hotel. I heard there's complimentary breakfast. How awesome is that? Stuffing session coming righttttttttttt up!

Trying My Hardest Not To Sleep

As if writing that long title would render me awake for the next few hours. I am exhausted and my body aches all over - an indication that I lack sleep and and is super exhausted. I definitely know I'm exhausted if I fall asleep in the transport on the way back home, which rarely happens - but happened today.

Just came back from my Manila nightstop and it was a great set of crew. I flew with Aizat again and we joked that we're officially Pinoy crews cos we always happen do fly Manila nightstops together. My leading was crazy enough - the legendary Madonna, as his nickname goes. Or should I aptly say "her"? I was working Business with him and laughed the whole way. Everything that comes out of his mouth is hilarious and he totally reminds me of my batchboy Azril.


Initially I was supposed to have two days off but I mutual-ed the flight with a friend who in returned wanted my KK flights. I happily obliged as it gave me the chance to spend his birthday together with him in Manila. We weren't working the same flights but at least we get to see each other. It's probably sickening to some (used to be sickening to me. wait, it still sickens me (in a totally good way) that i miss him all the time haha) that eventhough we live together, we still miss each other when we're away. So we take every opportunity we can to spend with each other. And the notion of meeting up in another city or country is totally romantic. Somewhat of an escape - where you wont run into anyone you know and just be. Didn't have anything special - just our favorite Chicken McDo - which is the BOMB. Those Filipinos sure do know how to fry their chicken. It tastes a gazillion times better than McD Malaysia + KFC's chicken put together. He told me that he went there again after I left this morning to tapau another McDo. Addicted much? So last night was super perfect, with our McDo Chicken, San Miguel Light, watching Phineas and Ferb (fav new cartoon!) on Disney. Later we cuddled up watching Shaun the Sheep (absolute cuteness overload) and promptly fell asleep.

I didn't get him anything special (yet. But I have something planned ;)) but I made him one of my special Roman cheesecakes that I cant wait to gobble up tonight when he arrives home. I'll be sure to sing him happy birthday at the top of my lungs as well.

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